Other women don’t tell you what you will learn when you ask your child about love

He will tell you he loves himself. When he first begins talking, he will press his palms into his chest and say his name as emphatically as he can, despite being unable to pronounce the soft middle “L” yet, or the final hard consonant “N.” Who do you love? You will ask him. And he [...]

Other women don’t tell you laughter can hurt more than tears.

From the first time you hear it, there is nothing that can compare to that sound. It’s like hearing his heartbeat for the first time all over again. It’s like falling in love. It’s like every single amazing first and so much better than all of them. That first laugh, from deep within his belly, [...]

Other women don’t tell you leaving doesn’t get easier.

There are good days. And bad days. And worse days. And better days. And there are days that blend in together and go on forever or end before you have the chance to realize they even begun. And every new day is a reset button for you as a mother. Yesterday is no indication of [...]

Other women don’t tell you it only takes a second.

You turn. You look away. You take off your jacket. You bend down to pick up the latest thing your child has dropped or thrown. You answer the phone, knowing this is a mistake. You take a sip of your coffee. You blink. That’s all it takes. Just a blink. A fraction of any one [...]

Other women don’t tell you that you will do everything you used to judge.

You will put on sneakers with a dress. You will do it running late this morning. You will do it for comfort and convenience. You will remember how you used to look at other women on the street wearing this and think, this will never be me. And then you will look down at your [...]

Other women don’t tell you taking care of yourself is the hardest part.

That after you’ve taken care of your child, your partner, the dog, the cats, your parents, and at least some of the house, you won’t have the energy to take care of yourself. Not in the sense of putting on make-up or doing your hair or the external things that make people look “taken care [...]